There are times with my 3 boys that I feel like pulling my hair out! I sometimes have to allow the screaming for a moment and close my eyes and pray for patience. I have realized that screaming over them and yelling back does absolutely nothing but bring more chaos. The more calm and collected I am, the more calm they become. Once I start talking to them about the problem and addressing the issue instead of throwing my hands up and leaving them to their own destruction, they realize that they can talk it through and find a solution and become interested in doing so. Children crave conflict resolution. They need us to teach them. When we discuss solutions with our children about the problems they are facing, they feel cared for, they feel heard, they feel they can depend on us to guide them, and then they gain confidence in making the right decisions in difficult situations. So don't shut down and don't give up. Pull up a seat with your kids and have a calm and productive talk about the issues at hand.